I have been working desperately to find ways to get mom plugged back in. Watch TV, phone us, phone others, send us clippings of silly jokes she finds, work on a jigsaw puzzle, help other people, play cards, do crossword and search word puzzle books, read the newspaper, go on outings, and so much more. I see that in her. Even signing her name on the paperwork at her new home took time and patience but got easier for her to do. She totally understood, but someone can easily misunderstand her if they don't give her the time to respond.
Since she has been in long term care she has lost all that. When we visit her, I see all that still within her.
She has always read anything she has to sign. And I saw her trying to do just that as she signed the paperwork at her new home. It was a lesson she taught us as we were growing up.
I find that staff anywhere that has paperwork for me to sign, tell me again where I need to sign. I look at them and tell them I have been taught well by my mother to always read what I am going to sign. Did you know that changes can be made on the medical forms before you sign them? Ie. Not agreeing to some part of it.
I wish I had known this back in the 1960's, when I had a cyst removed from my ovary. After the operation, the doctor said, oh and we also took out your appendix so you won't have to have another operation. Yeah right, more money for him. Still pissed off about that I notice as I write this.. LOL
Then it hit me.
It happened gradually. I barely even noticed.
I too, need to plug back in.
Mom is a wonderful treasured gift in my life. As I unwrap each layer of beautiful colourful wrapping paper, I discover more of myself. My own life journey would be different without her. Thank you God.
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